Why do we fear or avoid conflict? We may assume: • healthy relationships = no conflict • arguing = failure • someone has to be right and someone has to be wrong • the person who raises the issue is “the problem” These beliefs are incredibly common. In fact, conflict is one of the biggest themes that arises in therapy. It appears in many forms: relationship conflict, family conflict and the conflict we experience within ourselves when different parts of us want different thing

Anger is everywhere — in our homes, on the streets, in our politics. But what if it’s not just rage, but a signal trying to tell us something important?